2011 was a good year for marriage in the Peterson household (at least it was in my opinion). I feel like Brian and I finally found our footing as parents AND partners, and found a good balance between the two. I think that the hard work I've done, personally, to be less of a complete crazy lady has helped immensely. I feel like we fight and bicker less than ever, and we work through disagreements relatively well. Don't get me wrong, we're still fighters, but I think more often than not, we're productive fighters.
I'm proud that Brian and I make time in our lives to be JUST married, and not JUST parents who happen to be married. I think that sometimes people can lose themselves in the day to day work of being parents to a small child and forget that once upon a time they were actually in love with each other and enjoyed spending time together.
Brian and I regularly send Sadie to one of her grandparents' houses for the weekend and spend some time for just the two of us. These are usually house concert weekends, which is even better because we're spending that time doing something we're passionate about.
In 2011, Brian and I also became closer through our new, shared, healthy lifestyle. This is has been really important that we've gone through such big personal transformations together.
My personal goals for 2012 when it comes to my marriage are personal, but can be somewhat summed up by the following mantras:
- Do unto others as you would have them do unto you (especially your husband!, I forget this way too often)
- Remind myself what I LOVE about this man, and remember to tell him, too
- RESPECT! Always!
- Fight fair
- “I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.” -Woody Allen ;)